
Are you a good mother? If you clicked on this essay you probably. Undoubtedly, you are aware that your role is quite important for different health and well -being results, and maybe you spend time thinking if you are doing it right.
That’s just what a good mother is worried about, along with other things. You probably wonder if your child sleeps too or maybe too little. Or growth too slowly or maybe too fast. And if you are a new parent, you probably started to be afraid to teach your child to chew. (Please take this from your list.)
Are you a perfect mother? I certainly hope not. Being a perfect mother is actually quite harmful. What would the perfect mother even be? Infinitely accessible or infinitely respond to your child? Good sorrow! If it was even possible, it would be a terrible idea. (And when you think you are a perfect mother, it probably forces you to suspicion.)
Child carers are a template of their future relations and relationships are not one -way. Do you want to raise a child who believes that people around them exist primarily to meet their needs? Better that they learn, the age -appropriate way they give and take is important in all close relations.
Being defective is actually part of the mother’s work. Maybe even the most important part. How else would the children in your world learn that the shortcomings are fine and accept their own?
And yet mothers are constantly getting a message that they could not do enough. It comes from everywhere – books, influencers, their own children. And don’t let me start with my father -in -law. An important part of the problem, however, comes from the history of my own field.
Over the years, psychiatrists tend to blame mothers for the problems of their children. This is a delay from a time when few women practiced in the field. Are mothers extremely important? Obviously, yes. But too often we overlooked all the credit that mothers also deserve.
This can eventually damage children. I work with young people who first live alone and are often the first mental health expert to encounter. These include young people who have had serious symptoms for years. If I ask if their parents knew and whether they were considering the treatment of mental health and why they did not seek it, there will be a number of expected reasons. This includes costs, access to care and cultural factors. But too often I hear that parents did not look for mental health treatment for their teenager because they thought they were accused by mental health professional for their child’s problems. I only heard this explanation last month.
If you are still wondering if you are good enough, please take this quiz:
Have you ever went to the gym, just to take a shower and lay on the floor for a while? No one needs to know. That’s what women’s dressing rooms are for!
Have you ever fired a toy because it was too loud and pretended to be lost?
Have you ever recycled some of their works of art because they are just too much and have you pretended to give it to your grandmother?
Have you ever disappointed your child, or have they let them press buttons? I hope you are a person and come up with buttons.
Have you ever thought about a bribe? Like to offer your child you pay a dollar to stop collecting your sister, or maybe let you sleep for another hour? In some cases it works surprisingly well.
If you answered yes to any of these questions, don’t worry, don’t be afraid to admit that you are not perfect. Good for you.
So this day of mothers I would like to give a gift to crop all mothers. Stop thinking if you’re good enough. You are.